Oftentimes you'd meet people who are mean to themselves, who engage in negative self talk and are clearly not kind to themselves. The thing about these people is that the grace they refuse to extend to themselves, they can't extend it to others.
This is a problem because if basically goes against one of the commandments, which says, love your neighbor as yourself.
How can you give love that you don't have? How can you give and extend kindness to others when it is near impossible for you to do the same to yourself?
I was having a conversation with a friend about this and he admitted that he has this problem and I randomly said, this may affect your relationship with people. This was his response:
It’s already affecting my relationship… I feel like some “family” members are not doing as much as they should and my interaction with them is reflection of the expectations I have of myself, which is mean to them.
Thankfully he has been able to identify the problem and is working on extending grace to himself, without feeling like the world is about to end, although responsibilities and expectations makes it difficult.
In summary it isn't going to be an easy to just suddenly start being kinder/loving yourself. Yet you'd have to constantly and intentionally put in the work to make this happen. One way you can make this easier is by constantly being around kind people, soon you'd soak up all that kindness and see yourself learning what it entails.
Then you'd be obeying one of the commandments properly.
Love your neighbor as yourself.
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Have a wonderful evening everyone. ❤️❤️